Why Settle for “Fine” When Your Life Can Feel Fabulous?
There’s a moment many women over 50 will recognize:
You're doing all the things — work, errands, family, home — and life feels... fine.
Not thrilling.
Not terrible.
Just fine.
And while "fine" might be acceptable for a Tuesday night dinner, it should never be the vibe for your life.
This month inside FashionSHEsta, we're diving into Elevated Living — powerful, practical ways to move beyond fine without exhausting yourself chasing "more."
Because fabulous isn’t about working harder.
It’s about living smarter, lighter, and more beautifully — every day.
How "Fine" Sneaks In (and Why It’s Not Your Fault)
A few months ago, I noticed something.
Life was good — really good.
But somewhere between morning coffee and another busy afternoon, I realized I was rushing through moments that deserved more.
The little things — setting a pretty table, getting dressed, lighting a candle — started to feel like tasks instead of tiny luxuries.
Nothing was wrong.
But I knew it could feel even better.
That's when I decided: fine isn't the goal.
Elevated is.
That’s the danger of fine:
It doesn’t wave red flags.
It just slowly flattens your spirit until everything feels muted.
You didn’t get lazy.
You didn’t fail.
You’re simply overdue for an elevation.
What Elevated Living Really Means
Elevated Living isn’t about perfection or performance.
It’s about small shifts that create major energy changes.
✨ Choosing pieces that make you feel good, not just fit.
✨ Speaking to yourself with respect, not resignation.
✨ Creating small, beautiful moments you actually savor.
Elevated living is about honoring your life — not just getting through it.
Myth vs. Truth: What It Really Takes to Live Elevated
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Myth |
Truth |
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You need a whole new wardrobe. |
You need to elevate a few everyday basics. |
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You have to reinvent yourself. |
You just have to notice where you’ve settled. |
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It’s expensive. |
It’s intentional. (Luxury isn’t always about money.) |
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You need hours of free time. |
You need 5 mindful minutes here and there. |
You already have the ability to live elevated — you just might be spending it on "fine" without realizing it.
✨ 3 Tiny Upgrades That Shift Everything
👗 1. Elevate One Basic
- Start small.
Upgrade one thing you touch every day: - Replace a tired handbag.
- Swap worn sneakers for polished flats.
- Choose a pretty coffee mug that makes mornings feel like a treat.
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Small upgrades = major mental upgrades.
They quietly whisper, I’m worth the effort.
💖2. Upgrade Your Inner Conversation
The most dangerous version of "fine" isn't in your closet — it's in your head.
Start noticing your self-talk:
"It’s fine."
"I’m fine."
"This is just how it is."
Fine language creates fine lives.
Elevated language creates elevated experiences.
This week, when you catch yourself defaulting to fine, upgrade it:
"I deserve to enjoy this moment."
"I’m proud of what I’m building."
"I'm elevating my life — starting with this choice."
🏡 3. Make One Everyday Moment Feel First-Class
You don’t need a 5-star resort to feel elevated.
You can create luxury in your life right now by making tiny tweaks:
- Light a candle while answering emails.
- Eat lunch on a real plate, at a real table.
- Put on perfume just for yourself.
Small details change the texture of your day.
They tell your mind, this is not a life to rush through — it’s a life to savor.
🚫 Common Mistakes That Keep You Stuck in "Fine"
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Waiting for a perfect moment to start upgrading life (spoiler: it never comes)
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Believing you have to do a total makeover (when tiny shifts work better)
- Thinking it’s selfish to spend time or money on yourself (it’s actually generous — a better you serves everyone)
You don’t need a huge effort.
You just need consistent small moves.
🎯 First Steps You Can Take Today
- Pick one item you touch daily and elevate it — bag, shoes, mug, notebook.
- Catch one “fine” thought and upgrade it to something kinder and bolder.
- Slow down one daily moment — lunch, skincare, email — and give it the VIP treatment.
These micro-elevations ripple out.
Small decisions lead to massive shifts in how you feel — and how you show up in the world.
✨ Final Thought
You’re not here to survive a "fine" life.
You’re here to create an elevated one — one small upgrade at a time.
Because when you honor yourself with even the tiniest elevations, you become a woman who expects more — and gets it.
💬 Keep Going:
- Catch the full YouTube episode here — 5 easy upgrades that feel fabulous (no drama required).
- Read the full Elevated Living series this month here.
